Mesh & Childbirth
I will be home for the holidays and I will be enjoying my time with my daughter and of course our rescue dogs. This is Sammy who has been with us six weeks and we are working on getting him healthy and a good weight. Sammy loves everyone and he deserves a future with a person who will take care of him the rest of his life. It won’t be easy to let Sammy go because he is so sweet, but he deserves a one of one home and we are his caretakers until he is strong and healthy and we find one. How can anyone be unhappy with a face like this to look at? I can tell you it’s impossible. So have a wonderful holiday season and try to stay well. That is the greatest gift you can give to your family this yea
Today is my daughter’s birthday and I woke up thinking about all the young women whose lives will be changed forever, in the future and I knew I had to write about it. If this blog changes one young woman’s life, then it is worth taking the time to write.
Many years ago when I first arrived in this country I told my husband that just about every woman I met including in his family had had a hysterectomy. I thought it was so abundant and I told him that it did not seem right. He was used to it and didn’t think much about it but to me this stood out. However, in those days when a woman had a hysterectomy at least they didn’t open a packed and automatically put a mesh sling around her bladder while doing the surgery. They did something they called a bladder lift which was using sutures to make sure the bladder didn’t not fall down after they literally cleaned every else out and left a huge hole where her female organs should be.
Since dealing with mesh complications and researching so much, I have realized that most hysterectomies are indeed not necessary, but this is the way doctors think women should live. If every man went to a doctor and they decided to remove everyone’s testicles they would be screaming castration and things would change dramatically. In fact even sex offenders are not castrated. So I wonder, how come women except what happens to them so easily and don’t kick up a fuss? In the past I have written blogs about hysterectomy and you should go to each one and read all the comments to understand what is happening to women and I will give you links at the bottom of this blog.
Women love their children we all agree. Getting the news you are pregnant can be exhilarating when you want a child. I was twenty-four when I became pregnant with my daughter and I remember walking around amazed that I had become pregnant after only trying for three months. My husband and I had been married a year when I told him how much I wanted a child and I wondered if it was possible. He laughed and said of course it was, but I had spoken to other women who were trying for a couple of years and nothing had happened. So we both agreed that we loved each other and felt our marriage was strong and we were ready to welcome a baby, so I stopped taking the pill and to my amazement it quickly happened.
I never thought of problems associated with childbirth. All I could think about at that time was the baby I was carrying and how much I wanted it. I did everything I could to have a healthy baby, making sure I took nothing that could harm my child and I ate everything right, drank no alcohol or took pills, even an aspirin. That is what most women do we all know, but these days’ things have changed. You can no longer trust doctors without researching and becoming aware of what they do without you understanding all the facts. Mesh kits are standard in the operating room and regardless of the crap your doctor tells you, there is NO NEW tape on the market. They keep repackaging new types of kits but it is ALL the same mesh just under a different name or company. You can be pretty sure that if you go into surgery for a female problem, they will pull one off the shelf and use it WITHOUT thinking of the problems it may cause, either immediately or down the road after a few years. They do not believe all the immune symptoms associated with mesh slings and they believe they are right and it is the greatest stuff on the market.
I don’t care if you tell your doctor you DON’T want him/her to use mesh, they regard it as the gold standard of treatment and if they decide during surgery you need it there is absolutely nothing you can do about it after the fact when you wake up and find out. You CANNOT sue your doctor. No lawyer will take your case because they say it is too expensive. Besides which every doctor protects themselves from a lawsuit by setting up an LLC. You may not know why or know what this is, but they will protect their assets and this will explain why
I have lived long enough on this earth to have learned so much by reading and listening to others and this is why I want women to know the facts. When you find yourself in pain because of the surgery and the mesh product, no lawyer will take your case as an individual. That is why they throw everyone in a tort for product liability. But the only people who gain from this are the lawyers, not you. If your life is in shambles it’s too bad. This is why it is important every woman gets educated about what can happen and not be drawn in by doctors with an agenda who will lie to your face. That agenda is always driven by money.
I have heard women say they got their doctor to sign a paper before surgery saying they won’t use mesh in them. But it happened anyway. This is because they know they can get away with it because you can’t sue them unless you die and your relatives can prove why it happened. So they can do what they want to you and actually laugh in your face after surgery and there is not a darn thing you can do. So what’s the alternative? Well you may have to travel far from home, but your best option is to go somewhere where they can fix you without using mesh. Better to do it before than spend a fortune on many, many surgeries later trying to get it removed. There is no easy way.
A few days ago I was notified via email that a comment came in on the blog that I wrote about Dr. Kim. When I read it I was so happy that one couple are able to continue on with their marriage and their lives because they did research and found this blog. I was thrilled to say the least and that is why I keep working on this blog to allow those who do want to know the truth, a place to read the facts and where to go. This was that comment.
First my wife and I would like to thank each person that has contributed to a wealth of information about this issue. My wife was two weeks from surgery with a local surgeon and would have received mesh kits to “correct” POP. Fortunately several red flags popped up during the consults and she cancelled surgery and we began extensive research. After months of research we discovered that the best practice for POP surgery was at UCLA so we flew from WA State to UCLA for a consult with Dr. Kim. My wife was scheduled for surgery within two months and Dr. Kim did an excellent job, according to my wife. It was a seven hour laparoscopic surgery. It has now been 15 months since her surgery and my wife is quite satisfied with the results and counts her blessings that she did not have to endure the horror of the transvaginal kits. The information about the great work by Dr. Raz and Dr. Kim, the Tiverton House for lodging, recovery stories, etc…, allowed us to make choices for the best possible experience. Thank you all. And yes, Dr. Ja-Hong Kim has our endorsement.
This is always the greatest gift I can receive for spending many hours writing this blog.
This is the blog I wrote about Dr. Kim of UCLA
If you want to know what women have said about what happened to them after hysterectomy please go to the following blogs and read all the comments they left. This could save your life.
Here is the first one there are 214 comments.
This one also will tell you what happens
I can’t save you if you want the easy route and get it done now and close to home. I can only inform you and you can decided do you really want to risk this.
To me hysterectomy should be a last resort because once done there is no changing and going back. You will need hormone replacement which is another whole set of problems. So in my mind you should look for ways to deal with female problems first before you allow it to happen. Also as we age there can be other problems and to help you understand read this
While researching for someone I found a great article by Dr. Oz stating why this is an unnecessary surgery and why women need their female organs. Read this
For those of you who recently had surgery or will be having removal soon I want to let you know I understand all the anguish associated with mesh complications. I truly do care and please take care of yourself this holiday season and rest. Let someone else do the things you’ve always done over past holidays and allow them to show you how much you are loved, by taking over and doing this for you.
I will be home for the holidays and I will be enjoying my time with my daughter and of course our rescue dogs. This is Sammy who has been with us six weeks and we are working on getting him healthy and a good weight. Sammy loves everyone and he deserves a future with a person who will take care of him the rest of his life. It won’t be easy to let Sammy go because he is so sweet, but he deserves a one of one home and we are his caretakers until he is strong and healthy and we find one. How can anyone be unhappy with a face like this to look at? I can tell you it’s impossible. So have a wonderful holiday season and try to stay well. That is the greatest gift you can give to your family this year.
If you want to know more about hysterectomies, this foundation will tell you the truth