Mesh & Our Changing Lives

There isn’t a single woman who is dealing with mesh complications who doesn’t look at her changing life every day. We all do. Whether your complications are small or huge, whether you are in your twenties or eighties, your life has changed and you have to deal with those changes.

Some women will be able to go back to work after full mesh removal. Life will be a struggle for a long time but they may improve with healing time and changing their habits. However, no one can go back to life the way it was before mesh was put into our bodies and we all live with fear of what will happen in the future. However, to live life again, we shove those thoughts aside so that we can deal with all aspics of our daily lives. Some women like me will struggle with every day things they used to take for granted as easy. Cleaning the house is difficult. Taking a vacation takes money and planning because of the new struggles of your life. For some it is the realization that picking up their child or grand baby causes them severe pain. But they want so much to do it and feel their squirming child in their arms. But life changes after mesh.

I am often asked to update about myself and I rarely do as I think of my life as a constant change that no one can deal with but me. There are so many things that I can’t do any more and I have had to adjust. But I don’t want my life to be doom and gloom so I take from it the good things and set aside the bad. To think about all I can’t do makes me sad and that doesn’t help me live the way I should. I choose to be happy.

With my changing life came a lawsuit for the first time ever. I have never stood in courtrooms because I did something wrong. I never even had a parking ticket my entire life. Maybe that is not normal but that is who I have been and will continue to be. I stand for truth. I stand for justice and yet I see so many bad things when it comes to these lawsuits.

I have taken a very proactive approach to my own case even though I lived in pain and have hated having to deal with it. I remember when I filled all that paperwork out just before my mesh removal. I struggled with the depression of doing it but I did it anyway. I spread out piles of receipts from paying cash for the mess I had got myself into. Yes I looked at it as that even though I know it was not my fault. While sorting through those receipts I wanted to sit down and cry non-stop and at times I did. It took me two weeks to get it together, but in the end I did it as an accountant would do it. I have had a business in the past and I did all my own accounting. Years ago I went to H& R Block Income Tax School to understand the U.S. tax laws and how to do things. I worked for H & R block so that I could learn more and understand it so that I could live my own life without fear or reliance on others to do things or make decisions for me. And that is how I have approached my lawsuit. I must be in charge of it to be in charge of my own destiny.

Mesh is as mentally debilitating as it is physically. But we can’t sink into despair and give up. We can’t shift our minds away from the legal side of what we are going through no more than we can shift our minds away from paying our bills or other ordinary things we have to take charge of in our daily lives. We can’t sit back and say, I’ve hired a lawyer for that. We must make sure our lawyers got all our medical records and did everything they needed to try to plan for our future. We must be part of our lawsuit the way we are part of daily life if we don’t want to come out of this in a bigger mess.

I can only tell you the things I do to help myself but you must decide if you want to be part of your own case proactively. I don’t bother my lawyer daily but when I want to know something, I ask in writing. I want the answer back in writing because if I am having a bad day I can wait until the next to read it. I do nothing over the phone and have told my lawyers I want everything in writing. I have told them I want to be part of my case before and during negotiations or trial. I read a lot and I learn a lot. That is how I handle my case as well as my mesh injured life. I save everything I receive in a file marked specifically for my case. I am organized to deal with it all when and as I can.

A couple of days ago I read something about how I should leave the reporting to investigative reporters. I had to laugh at this. You see from the day I became mesh injured I did not sit back and leave anything to someone else. I began researching and sharing and accidentally became an investigative reporter on the side of mesh injured women because I am mesh injured. I have packed this blog with everything I learned along the way because I do not want this to happen to the women of the future and I want those now injured to have a fair chance at making their own choices. No non mesh injured woman could not do this with the same passion I have. The passion of pain and injury.

No one can do this for you. You have to actively take part in this the same way you take part in your life. To help you do this I want you to open your mind to learning and you can begin reading this amazing and sobering account of how our torte cases will work.

The following link will take you into a world where you can begin to learn more about how this will all go down in the near future. Then you can make better decisions when you understand and learn.

If you want to learn more in the future, bookmark this siteUpdates not on this blog, they will be there on that site. It’s time for you to help yourself because you are never too old or too sick to learn.

3 Comments

  1. haydie

    In April 2013 I HAD A TVT Sling The same day I fell into complications (urine retention) and ertremely painful burning OVER 18 UTIs antibotics that gave me serious side effects! This foreign body response is killing me! I break into hives all over my body including my lips and head! I’ve been to Drs Er in our local hospital and noone knows what is going on! Please pray for me depression anxiety and not knowing if today will be my last day! My grandmother had 20 children and she never had nothing implanted in her and she die at the age of 98 yrs old! Thank you for your sad stories God Blessg

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  2. jemima williams

    I wholeheartedly agree with you Linda. We have to learn to be our own advocates.
    I have really appreciated all of your help over the years. I benefit from all of your ideas and suggestions. I thank you for all of your hard work and I hope you are making a good recovery as time goes by. I know we will never be perfect, but as long as healing is taking place on a daily basis I feel this is all we can ask or hope for. Many blessings and much love to you.

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    1. lavalinda

      And I thank you Jemima for your continuing support.

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