How to Deal with Medical PTSD
I never cease to be amazed because of mesh complications and this blog about all the things I have learned that may possibly help other women. When I think I have learned it all, I learn more. I could say I am sick of learning but then again, learning has always been good for my brain so it is not a bad thing. Like my mother used to say “You are never too old to learn”.
Doing what I do has taught me the terrible sadness we all go through at times because of all the losses attributed to mesh implants. It is fueled by things such as doctor’s outright disbelief that we are suffering even when something is clearly wrong, such as mesh protruding from a woman’s body. Yes it happens. How can they deny something this clear you wonder? Well to admit to it, would be to face the fact that they may have done something wrong and now have to do something about it and they do not know how. Or to admit to it, means they have to face their conscience when they put mesh into the next unsuspecting woman and decide not to do it. So denial is how they continue on.
Has mesh implants slowed down, even after the warning by the FDA in July 2011? No definitely not. Are women being given a clear picture of the true and numerous side effects buy their surgeons? No definitely not. I know because I hear from new women every day. The FDA said this would be the doctor’s job to tell women about the complications, but they never admit doctors are influenced by the manufacturers of these implants and the lure of quick easy money. If they weren’t, they would actually see what I see. Mesh is causing women extreme pain, loss of income and family and a huge blow to their mental wellbeing.
You the reader do not see all I see. These days to keep my sanity, I have to choose which cases I will present to the ladies who help me because some of us still suffer with nerve damage and continuing complications. We also wish to continue our lives with as much happiness as possible by enjoying our families. So although it pains me, I have to decide which woman we can give a big cyber hug to and allow her to move forward after she has been allowed to express her pain and fear. Usually we have loving conversations via email until she realizes she is not crazy. It is a kind of cyber group therapy and once a woman feels everything that has happened can be dealt with, she will move on and we will move on to the next lost woman who has been told it is not the mesh!
There is no payment to any of us for this. We are not being paid by anyone and we do this because we know how much suffering is caused by mesh. In other words we understand.
I do realize however that not every woman can move forward especially when she has lost her partner and career and she now lives on disability. Women who were once totally independent sometimes feel they do not want to live. Fortunately most are strong enough to overcome that moment when they wish to end their life and they do get the mental health they need. But what kind of treatment may work? I have often wondered that very same thing, because I have experience intense times of sadness and a flight experience every time I have gone to a doctor. My way of dealing with the latter issue is to stay away from them, even if they have proven to be good doctors. Sometimes there is no way to avoid them and the old feelings come back again. Can therapy help? I have no clue but I am always will to read and understand more on this subject.
Just yesterday a woman told me about a therapy she is trying to deal with her own issues, not associated with mesh. She has a relative with mesh which is how I know her but she is dealing with past issues to try to move forward because of things that have happened to her. So when she told me she was trying EMDR therapy, I asked her what it was. I know many mesh injured women have tried mental health therapies for dealing with mesh injuries so I wanted to know more and asked her what this therapy was. This was her answer. I removed some of the personally details because this was a private conversation and I do not want to break that privacy.
“EMDR is treatment for PTSD. I don’t like just talk therapy because I can talk about the things that happened until I’m blue in the face and I still feel the same about it. I need to remove the intense sadness and overwhelming fear. I need to learn I’m not going to die talking about it and going back to the events of my past. These therapists use tappers that you hold in your hand and they vibrate. Some use lights that you follow with your eyes. You relax and go to your safe place and talk about it and feel safe. Then you go back and add your role model or resource as she calls it. I think it takes the negative feelings away from the past event that causes so much pain for a person. After this therapy, you don’t feel that fight of flight response when remembering.”
I personally never know what could work for any mesh injured woman, because we are all suffer differently and deal with personal issues that are also different. I know mesh injuries have caused women to divorce and start again alone while still living in pain. So I am open to learning about anything that could help them through it and they can make a choice as to if they wish to try it for themselves. So I found a site that explains it perfectly and I am including some of their own words, for those who are using phones to read and find it hard to go to certain sites and work through the basic information. So here are some paragraphs taken from this site and you can decide if this therapy could move you forward in your life. I have had so many issues with bad prescription reactions to drugs and I know many of you have had similar reactions, so do not want to live on antidepressant drugs. So what else can you do if you cannot get out of bed to deal with your life or face yet more surgeries? Perhaps this could help you. That is why I research and I write.
So my first Google question was what is EMDR treatment? Here is the answer.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is an integrative psychotherapy approach that has been extensively researched and proven effective for the treatment of trauma. EMDR is a set of standardized protocols that incorporates elements from many different treatment approaches. To date, EMDR therapy has helped millions of people of all ages relieve many types of psychological stress.
My next was how does it work? This was the answer.
No one knows how any form of psychotherapy works neurobiologically or in the brain. However, we do know that when a person is very upset, their brain cannot process information as it does ordinarily. One moment becomes “frozen in time,” and remembering a trauma may feel as bad as going through it the first time because the images, sounds, smells, and feelings haven’t changed. Such memories have a lasting negative effect that interferes with the way a person sees the world and the way they relate to other people.
EMDR seems to have a direct effect on the way that the brain processes information. Normal information processing is resumed, so following a successful EMDR session, a person no longer relives the images, sounds, and feelings when the event is brought to mind. You still remember what happened, but it is less upsetting. Many types of therapy have similar goals. However, EMDR appears to be similar to what occurs naturally during dreaming or REM (rapid eye movement) sleep. Therefore, EMDR can be thought of as a physiologically based therapy that helps a person see disturbing material in a new and less distressing way
Can it help some people? You can go to this link and read what others have said.
I have no clue if any woman will read this and give it a try, but to research and find out what this is, took me about an hour and a half this morning and if it helps one woman, then it was worth my time.
This is the link to the EMDR site.
I am including the link where you can enter your information and find the nearest therapist to you.
If you try this and it helps you, please leave a comment here on this blog, so that others will learn more. I will be the only one who can see your information. We will all appreciate your time and effort and that is what this blog is all about. With love. Linda