Mesh GET IT OUT NOW
In 1933, Franklin D Roosevelt at his first inaugural speech said. “The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself!” How true and how important is this for women with mesh complications to remember now? It is everything. I just read a comment this morning from yet another women who is trying to make it through yet another holiday. She was doing something that all American women take for granted. Shopping on Black Friday. This is part of her comment.
“I went shopping for black Friday, two days ago and after a few hours I was doubled up, sitting on the curb from the pain in my lower stomach and my lower back. My stomach began to swell also. The aching inside never goes away. I want the sling removed and have every since the very first day I could not urinate on my own, but now am fearful after reading the issues that go along with having it removed but am afraid to leave it in as well. All I can say is if anyone is considering this surgery, DO NOT DO IT!!!! There are other options that should be considered before this option is even brought into the conversation. Thank you for your blog and I hope all goes well with your upcoming surgery.”
She came in on an earlier blog and has no clue I already had complete removal surgery last month. She does not understand than although I had very bad nerve damage from having it in my body, shrinking and doing more and more damage every day, I am very grateful I was able to go out to UCLA for removal. I was so thankful this past Thanksgiving to know it is all gone.
I did not go Black Friday shopping. None of it was important to me anyway, but I still have to work on the nerve damage that came from too much time in my body. Trying to walk around store after store would have been detrimental to my well being and I am not about to mess with my well being.
I know what women are thinking “If I can just get through this holiday, maybe I can make plans and do something about the pain”. But they keep putting it off instead because they are afraid. They do not know what I know. Fear can injure you as much as the mesh. Fear will stop you from doing anything year after year until you are like many women who contact me. You are writhing in agony. You are bed ridden. The hard pain meds that helped you at first no longer help. You are thinking about ways to kill yourself to make it all stop. DO NOT REACH THAT POINT!
You would not be human if you were not afraid of surgery. We all were/are at some point but you have to conquer fear using baby steps. This lady has reached a point that if she does not do something now by going to a surgeon who believes it is the mesh doing this, she will slowly but surely reach a point of no return. When she said she was sitting on a curb in pain. She has big issues urinating. Lower back pain and stomach pain are sure signs infection is taking over. Kidney disease, severe infections that can kill and are doing their damage. But she does not have to continue this way.
To the right is a link to a blog I wrote about the doctors at UCLA. Yes if you live elsewhere in the country it is a huge effort to get out there. It will cost you money, time and energy. BUT…aren’t you doing that right now by shopping on Black Friday in terrible pain.
Every woman has freedom of choice. We must make our own decisions. Most of us made uninformed decisions when we had this surgery because we were not told what this product could do to us. That is why I get up each day and make a conscious effort to change things. I keep posting blogs with everything I learn so that you can at last believe it is the mesh and go to doctors who also believe it. Then you can begin your new life before it is too late.
Please take that first step. Make an appointment to go to UCLA then work on the money issue. Give your children or your grandchildren the best gift possible. YOU! Forget the Black Friday deals. You are far more important to them and those deals won’t mean a thing as they stand at your grave site wishing you were here with them on the next holiday. I know I am being blunt and perhaps my honesty is a bit much for you, but it is because I care very much.
Go to this blog and read Tiffany’s comment and ask yourself is this you? I am grateful she wrote this because it reminds me why I do this every day. I do not want this to be you. http://meshangels.com/2011/07/mesh-can-take-your-dreams-away