Mesh & the Physiological Damage
As I write this blog, believe me I am very aware this could create other complications for women who are injured by mesh. I do not take what I write lightly and therefore neither should you. My writing should be viewed as a whole and not taken and shredded and dissected by those who believe all mesh complications are by crazy women. THEY ARE NOT!
Today I am writing because if there is any way to reach the families of women who are seriously injured by mesh, I will do whatever it takes. This is because women are so physically injured by mesh and they need their families support. To understand this deep pain you would have to listen to hundreds to thousands of women who are left in terrible pain without belief by their doctors that this pain exists. I have listened to those women. I am their voice because no one is listening to them. Not doctors and not their families.
Once again I have to express what these women are telling me. That their pain is dismissed and they are either ignored or told to snap out of it. Please understand that the pain and injury from mesh is not so easily dealt with. They need you to believe them and to help them. Without your help, they seek into depression and terrible sadness.
What I do know is this. Once a woman is injured by mesh, the first thing a doctor will do is offer anti-depressants. This is so she will go away and they do not have to deal with her or acknowledge that there is a problem. If she is seriously injured by mesh, she may be offered pain killers for a period of time. Many pain killers are addictive. If she has a past of addiction to either drugs of alcohol, then she is far more vulnerable to these narcotics than other women. Therefore she will not only be suffering from pain but there are more serious complications when these narcotics will eventually be taken away. She is then left with withdrawal AND her terrible pain from mesh. Anger, sadness and pain is a volatile mix for these women and their families. Tensions run high.
What can you do as a family member to help a woman who has been injured by mesh? First believe her. That is the number one thing that women are telling me. That their family members do not believe that their pain is real. You may wonder why. These women traipse from doctor to doctors appointment seeking answers. They are rarely given any. It is common for these women to be told by the very doctors who put the sling in them that all they want is money. That the lawyers are riling women up when they do not have anything wrong with them. That the conspiracy out there is against doctors and a wonderful product that helps women. THIS IS SO NOT TRUE. Doctors are not the victims. Women are! It is time for the medical community to listen to these women, believe them and STOP USING MESH!
If you are reading this and are a family member of an injured woman, please take that first step. Please believe that she is injured! So many women have told me that they wish they had cancer because they would be believed. How terrible is that? Why would a woman want such a thing to happen to her? Because she if fighting the very system that has injured her so greatly and she is at the end of her rope. Then to add family members who are going by her past, instead of helping her with the now, she is suffering beyond belief. Without you she has nothing. Please change your thinking. Help your injured loved one and you can make all the difference to her life now and in the future. Thank you.
Update from a special friend who works with cases about children and their mothers.
You might mention that someone who has become addicted to pain meds can get into a methadone program. Methadone is quite effect for pain too and it is free if she is in recovery from other opiods. Also, there are some very good non-narcotic pain meds being given out in situations like this. One is called Tramadol. If a woman is concerned about losing children because she is addicted to these pain meds, she should know that I’ve had mothers in my guardian cases taking this and it does not count against them interestingly and not the methadone either if prescribed.