You are not alone
Once again another email this morning reminds me to keep this blog from disappearing into the blog archives. If I can help one woman, it is worth the effort of writing.
This woman is like many. Young! At age forty, she cannot live normally any more because of constant pain. She cannot have sex like a young woman should because of constant pain. She is sad and feels helpless and angry about her situation and wishes she had found my blog before she had bladder sling surgery in February of this year 2011. Sadly, she didn’t, but if she did, she could have asked questions of her doctor and demanded answers or walked away.
If you find this blog before surgery, contact me and I will listen to you and let you make your own decision whether to go through with it. I am not here to tell you what to do, only to listen and help. If you find this blog and you are going through your own Hell because of having this surgery, contact me so that I can keep trying to get the word out that we are NOT few and far between as mesh companies would like us to believe. We are many, battling on through a fog of pain and sadness.
If you have to have surgery for another reason such as hysterectomy, rectocele or other prolapse, you will probably be told of this surgery at the same time. Please don’t do this surgery as an add on. Many of us have done it including me. I needed rectocele surgery and all of a sudden found myself having bladder sling surgery at the same time. You can have the surgery you need and leave bladder sling surgery alone. Now I wish I could take this surgery back and just had rectocele repair done, and I am not alone.
So far three women have contacted me before they had the surgery and were shocked at what could happen to them. None were told of these complications. No woman who has contacted me since I began this blog has ever said that she was told that complications could arise that would be devastating to her living a normal life, free of pain. I wasn’t either.
I have said before that this surgery is like playing Russian Roulette. None of knows who will get the bullet. If you have just found this blog and are feeling sad and lonely because of how it has changed your life for the worse, contact me and I will be here for you. Sometimes just typing it out on a keyboard releases some of the pain and anger. I can’t do a lot other than hand out advise, people to contact and listen to you, but I am here. I care.